Complete in Him: For Christian Singles

At twenty-eight years old, I was still very single. Haha. In my home country, girls around that age are well overdue for marriage. Those years, before I got married, I did not like being bugged about marriage, especially by strangers. It sometimes made me feel like running to someplace else. Haha. Anyway, at that time, whenever people asked me about the kind of man I would like to get married to, my answer always went around something like this: a person who understands me completely – all my flaws and rights – and loves me anyway; my friend who I can be myself with; and one who loves God more than he loves me. Just very simple! Physical looks weren't much of a bother to me; although, I knew I would have preferred a good looking guy who weighed half as much as I did then (I was a lot bigger that year). The kind of job he did wasn’t also much of a bother either. At that time, I'd just respond by saying I needed a friend who understands me so completely, and loves God way more than he loves me. At this point, it’s important to mention that finding that guy was very difficult; and that guy finding me was [now I know] impossible. LOL.

One day, as I was waiting, excruciatingly, in a public place, I decided to while away time by looking at the many pictures on my phone. Thankfully, I came across a portion of Psalm 139 that I had ScreenGrabbed to my phone.

Psalm 139:1-6

O Lord, You have searched me and known me. 
You know my sitting down and my rising up; 
You understand my thought afar off.
You comprehend my path and my lying down,
And are acquainted with all my ways. 
For there is not a word on my tongue,
But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
You have hedged me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
It is high, I cannot attain it.

As I read it, I realized that I sought in a man what I already had in God. Now, don’t get me wrong; at the time, I still desired that God-filled man (which I now have, praise God. Lol). I, however, grasped in that moment that my God-filled husband will be my friend and love God, but will never be able to understand me completely. That kind of understanding and love is found in God alone. Even the Psalmist in the sixth verse of Psalm 139 exclaimed, “Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high I cannot attain it.”

So, to all my single sisters and brothers out there who, like I was, are hoping for the perfect man or woman, you already have Him in God. Like I once told my lonely friend who thought she needed a man to complete her, you can never find satisfaction in any man or woman if Christ does not satisfy you. Marriage is the union between one COMPLETE man and one COMPLETE woman – that’s only when “the two” can become “one” (Ephesians 5:31). Two half-baked individuals who get hitched hoping they can complete or “compliment” each other will only and certainly get disappointed.

Christ completes you; and that’s why even if a relationship doesn’t work out between a person and you, you may be disappointed and somewhat heartbroken, but don’t feel like the earth has given way beneath your feet. Don’t lose heart and think life isn’t the same without that person in your world. It never has to be “this” particular person; but it always has to be one particular GOD, who has searched you and known you; One who knows your sitting down and your uprising and knows your thoughts afar off; He who discerns your going out and your lying down, and is acquainted with all your ways; and even more amazing and romantic, He who knows your very words even before you speak them.

Now, that should satisfy you. That should complete you!

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